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Anger

Anger is a normal feeling that we all experience. It is an instinctive response to feeling threatened. When we become angry our bodies change to meet the threat: tense muscles, pumping heart, etc.

Words you may use to talk about anger include: rage, mad, wound up, furious.

  • Anger is often a sign that something is not right.
  • Anger can let you know that you are being hurt, physically or emotionally.
  • Anger can also tell you that your needs are not being met.

If something is happening that is wrong you may feel angry. Anger is just an emotion which is neither good nor bad, it is what you do with it that counts. However, anger can have unwanted side effects.

Anger can lead to difficulties in relationships, health problems, poor work performance, and difficulties with ‘the authorities’. Anger is also connected with aggression and violence. Aggression is an action that is intended to cause injury, harm or damage, whilst anger is an emotion. Have a read of our anger management workbook which describes what anger is in more detail.

Anger is an emotional reaction to events or things which happen. Below are some of the main triggers which can make us angry.

Stress, frustrations, and disappointment

A frustration is when you try to do something and are blocked or disappointed. For example, when trying to mend a bicycle puncture and the bike pump breaks.

Annoyances, irritations, and resentments

These are things that ‘get on your nerves’. Examples include:

  • someone making a nuisance of themselves
  • accidentally breaking something that you like
  • tearing an item of clothing
  • loud noises or interruptions when you are busy

Abuse

This can be verbal or physical abuse. Verbal abuse can include name-calling, cursing, and other unkind remarks. The abuse can be obvious and direct. Other times it is less obvious like when someone tries to make you feel a fool. Physical abuse includes pushing, grabbing, punching and kicking. This occurs much less often than verbal abuse.

Injustice or unfairness

These are situations where you have not been treated fairly. An example is when someone fails to carry out his or her promise. You may also get angry if you feel that someone else is being mistreated.

Trauma

When something horrible happens to a person they can experience anger. Anger can relate to a sense of injustice or act as a defence to keep others away. If you have experienced a traumatic incident and are struggling to cope then consult your GP and seek psychological help.

All these things and more can lead us to feeling angry and perhaps reacting in a way that we may regret later. If you would like to attend our anger management course to learn some ways in which you can manage your anger click here.

What to expect

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Frequently asked questions

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